Yes, I can be a fire-y go-getter person when I talk about business, enthusiastic and entertaining when I talk to close friend, present myself in more serious manner when I speak in front of people (especially when I share about wellness), so… which one actually is the ‘real’ Zia?
To be honest, I found this question funny.
Why funny?
Well, simply because… I’m everything.
Just like an actor who can play many characters and going deep in that certain personality, every human being is gifted with different layers of personality and characters that they can play with.
If we relate this character with the 5 Elements of Ayurveda, these multi personalities of ours can look like this:
Ether Element: Our spiritual, still, non-attached, and mindful part of us
Air Element: Our individual mind as human, intelligence, humorous, and if it’s imbalance can make us worry and anxious about things easily
Fire Element: Our focus, go-getter side, which can turned to be anger and impatience if this fire element is imbalance
Water Element: The loving, compassionate and sensual part of us
Earth Element: It’s that part of us that make us keep doing the same thing every damn day (which needed sometimes), that can also makes us stubborn.
So the truth is, every human being have this 5 elements in them. The different is, certain people are gifted with more of certain element and less on the other element.
And this multi-characters in us happened for a reason, just like other things in the world.
Every human being is born for certain purpose and role in this life. And our body is the vehicle that can help us to fulfill that role.
Some people born to be a warrior, and some born to be an educator. With the different roles that we might have, we come in different types of body and size, as well as embody different types of character.
Imagine if an army who supposed to defend their family and country embody more water element, they wouldn’t have the heart to fulfil his duty as he has so much love for the enemy/people who might threaten them, because he see himself in his enemy.
So back again to the main issue that I would like to bring up is that, we often caught up in a situation where we tried to push aside a part of our personalities because we judge that it’s wrong to be like that.
The truth is, it's always easier to judge other people instead of recognise the flaw within ourselves.
We think that it’s wrong to be a go-getter person, so we don’t let ourselves be driven. So instead, we judge other people who are passionate about their goal as a bad thing.
We think that it’s wrong to go to party and socialise, so we don’t let ourselves to go out. So instead, we judge other people who do that as a bad person.
We think that it’s wrong to accumulate money and wealth, so we don’t let ourselves priorities our financial needs. So instead, we judge other people who making money as a bad thing.